Warning: There is going to be a lot of "dirt" in this post. Things are getting a little dramatic on my end of the screen and I just need to vent!
A year ago on August 15th I had the pleasure of standing up in my cousin K's wedding. It was a beautiful ceremony and a wonderful celebration. Her mom is sort of non-existent in her life (except to ask for money) so my Aunt C, my grandma, and I chipped in quite a lot. She had a fairy tale wedding, it was truly wonderful. The love between her and her husband W was evident and it was just so sweet!
W is in the Army. He has been for years. W and K knew he'd be getting deployed in December of '09 (thus the fall '09 wedding). W left for boot camp and was coming back for leave this month before he is sent over seas. A couple days before he was to return I get this text message:
"Walt and I are getting a divorce. It was a really hard decision but I just need to tell someone."
She claimed that W's being deployed and eventual trip overseas was just too hard on them. I tried to convince her to at least grt the help of a therapist before seeking a divorce. But she had already made up her mind. She tried to pass this all off as a mutual decision but 4 days later...
She's back in a relationship.
With one of the groomsmen in her wedding.
And she's posting this crap all over FB.
I can't get over it! This seems so distasteful and I am truly appalled. I feel terrible for W who will be sent overseas in a few days. I can't believe he came home to his life shattering and now he has to go to an unfamiliar land.
I feel like that whole wedding between W and K was such a sham. I am so angry at K...she was married for only 1 year!
Maybe with time I will be able to more productively channel my anger but for right now I think I need to keep my distance from K. I don't even know what would come out of my mouth if I had to see her face to face.
So that is my rant, thank you for listening. Tips on how to deal with all this craziness are welcome.