Wednesday, April 14, 2010

Loving the Real You

I style women for events and weddings. With this comes the harsh reality of how hard we women are on ourselves. I hear “body grips” every day from women of all shapes and sizes.

Yesterday a woman dramatically came in waling “I’m a size bigger then last time….I’m soooooo FAT!!!”

She continued on with her pity party claiming that I would never find anything that would look good on her for the gala she was attending. But guess what? She left that day with not one but FOUR dresses that looked absolutely fabulous on her.

I’m not sure why some women are so hard on themselves. I think it may have to do with our “culture of thin”. Women see the magazines and watch the commercials where impossibly beautiful (and air brushed) gals strut their stuff. Women buy into thinking if they just bought this or did that they would be thinner and there for better people.

The diet industry has exploded because of the insecurity of women coupled with the desire to be thin. What isn’t mentioned is how emancipated stars and models look in real life. Their rib cages and droopy eyes are edited out of the ads. Their lack luster skin is airbrushed to perfection. And this is how we desire to look? That is no way to live, trust me, I’ve been there.

I make it no secret that I struggled mightily with an eating disorder. Recovery was difficult when I had society shoving all these unrealistic images in my face. But when I stepped away from the magazines and the TV ads and took a look at real women…I noticed how fantastic we all are no matter what our size. I started to realize that imperfections are what make us unique. We wouldn’t be special if we all looked like super models.

So today I’d like anyone who is reading this to stand proud. Don’t think about what life would be like if you could “just lose 5 pounds” or if you were somebody different. Lift your head high because you are a unique creation. You are exactly the way God intended you to be. Dare to love yourself!

Don’t like society tell you how you should look and act.

As the great Dr. Sues said-

“Be yourself because the people who mind don't matter and the people who matter won't mind.”


Cindy S said...

Hmmmmm.....easier said than done my dear. Nice post though.

Rachel W. said...

Hey Cindy,
I know it is so much easier said then done. For most of us it is a daily battle. That is why it never hurts to have someone (in this case me) remind you how special you are just being yourself! =)

Anne said...

I LOVE this post. Can I repost it sometime soon on my blog, featuring you as the writer? I just think it is something great to pass on for everyone to read. Let me know! :)

Chennifer said...

Great post. I could need a stylist - have to meet my fiancés grandmother soon - in another country - and the beautiful dress I wanted didn't fit me! what to wear, what to wear...

Rachel W. said...

Anne- Yes, of course you can use this post on your blog. It is a message I feel very strongly about so it would be amazing if you could spread the word to your followers!
Chennifer- I wish we lived in the same area...I could style you! ;-)

debwagner said...

This post was just what I needed! Thank you!

pink82 said...

Right on girl!!! This is something we women need to hear more of. Keep letting your voice be heard. I look forward to more blogs like this one.

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A Lil Story said...

Awww, love this post(and that Dr.Suess quote)! so true... I am very hard on myself about my weight and being in shape.

I just wrote a post on fashion and my wardrobe today! Maybe you could give me some pointers =)

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